Who Has a Guilty Conscience?
December 21st, 2006Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner was always questioning you about where you have been and what you have been doing? At first you may have answered their questions with a genuine and honest response explaining your whereabouts and your recent activities. However, as the questioning becomes incessant you wonder what the real motive might be behind the questions as you are neither guilty of a crime or of being unfaithful. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out what is really happening in most cases but sometimes when you are caught up in the emotion of a relationship you can’t see the forest for the trees or realize someone has a guilty conscience.
Everything seems to be going along just fine and then one day out of the blue your partner asks you a probing question that seems a tiny bit out of character for them and being completely unaware, you respond with the truth. Sometimes there may be an immediate follow up question or maybe that will come next time their guilty conscience gets the better of them. This may go on for weeks, months or dare I say it… years. When you genuinely care about someone it is so easy to be blinded by love and not recognize their guilty conscience. If you are neither guilty of any unfaithfulness or feel you have no reason not to trust your partner it is devastating to find out all those probing questions were coming from your partners guilty conscience. All of a sudden every one of those invasive questions seems like a sharp blow to your heart.
Chronic long term physical pain can of course be extremely unpleasant but in most cases physical pain is fleeting. Emotional pain on the other hand is a whole different story, when you realize the person you love has not only been lying to you and probing you with questions from their guilty conscience but has also been unfaithful, it can be crippling in every way. In the worst of cases you may feel physically sick, be unable to eat, work or sleep and sometimes the pain can be so bad you might even feel like you will never get over it. If you are going through this at the moment my heart goes out to you. I know it is easy to say it and you might not believe it but you will get over it. Yes it will take time and yes it may take even longer for you to trust someone again but you will be a better person from the experience and that is all your life, my life and everyone else’s life is, a series of never ending experiences that are intended to make us better, more sincere, more compassionate and more loving individuals or perhaps I should say conscious forms of energy. That is what we really are, we are energy, we are a consciousness in a human or bodily form and we do learn from our experiences. We have evolved into what and who we are as a result of our combined past experiences.
Perhaps you have never been subjected to relentless questioning from a partner with a guilty conscience but if you do you need to open your eyes wide to the possibility these questions might be coming from a dark place and perhaps you might need to fire a few questions back in return. If your return questions are met with immediate hostility when you are acting quite calm I hope you can hear the alarm bells ringing. If the opposite is happening and you are the one blasting the questions left, right and centre for no apparent reason it might be wise to consider if it’s you who has a guilty conscience and where have you been and what you have been doing. The only way to avoid a guilty conscience is to stop whatever it is you are doing and only you know what that is.
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