Trust Your Feelings
December 18th, 2006No matter what it is you are doing or are trying to achieve in life, your feelings are the best guide you will ever have. It’s the way you feel about a situation or another person that indicates whether that situation or person is well placed in your life. I suppose you could call it a gut instinct but whichever way you look at it, you should always trust your feelings as your feelings never lie. A friend once said to me you can change what you think about something at any given moment but you can’t immediately change how you feel about it. Your thoughts are on the surface of your mind or at a conscious level, however your feelings run much deeper at the subconscious level.
It is a simple and daily practice to change your thoughts. The process of changing your thoughts can also be positive and constructive. For example if you wake up each morning and think how much you dislike going to work, work will continue to be a drag and your feelings will follow your thoughts and you will most probably feel miserable at work. If you change how you think about going to work to something of a more positive nature you may begin to enjoy your work or the universe may respond by presenting to you a new work opportunity. Subsequently, as you change your negative thoughts about work to positive ones, in time your feelings will follow. The process must begin though by changing your thoughts and believing in what you think before you have any chance of changing the way you feel.
The friend who told me you can’t change the way you feel was referring to a particular relationship I was in quite a few years back. I had confided in my friend that although I had recently moved in with my girlfriend after we had been seeing each other for many months, it just didn’t seem to be working out. Everything had been going along ok but after we started living together it just didn’t feel right. It was these feelings that I was having trouble dealing with. I was only in my early 20’s at the time and didn’t know what to do. It was only after our relationship started to deteriorate from when we started living together that I realized I had to make a decision. My friend was not one to mince his words and he advised me the best thing to do if I can’t talk about it with my girlfriend and feel better about it, was to move on. I didn’t want to move on and the more I thought about it the worse I felt till finally I really had no choice and so I decided to bite the bullet and follow my feelings. Initially I was in emotional pain over splitting up but quickly I fell back on my feet and started to feel better about everything in my life. Following my feelings allowed me to move away from a relationship that was not right for me and in time I felt good about the relationship in that I had learnt to follow my feelings. It wasn’t the end of the world like I often thought it would be when I broke up with my first few girlfriends and the other areas of my life got a new boost of energy as I no longer felt like I was suffocating.
Following your feelings should be universal in every area of your life. It doesn’t just apply to relationships or your career. You could feel stuck in the town you are living or perhaps even the country you are living. I did, I love Australia but a couple of years ago I knew I had more to see and more to do in my life. I knew deep down I had to leave my home country, not just for a holiday this time but for a while or maybe even forever, and continue to explore the world. So I made a plan, sold or gave away literally everything I owned except for my backpack and some clothes, quit my job and moved to Asia with no job to go to. Some people thought I was crazy, some told me they wished they could do it but, but, but and others wished me the best of luck. Since I left Australia almost 2 years ago I have not looked back, everything has worked out even better than I had planned and I can tell you it had nothing to do with luck. I set my intentions months before I left, I continued to think positively about the outcome and my feelings followed my thoughts and the day I left, although a bit sad to leave my family, I knew from my feelings I was doing the right thing.
You never need to be scared about making a decision, even if it’s a life changing one, if it feels right. I am not saying everything will work out perfectly if you decide to make a change but what I will say is your feelings are instinctively linked to your intuition and those feelings come from a place inside you that wants you to be happy. If you are person who is naturally cautious or likes to cling to security but deep inside your feelings are screaming at you to let go and break out, try following your feelings in some way that does not disrupt the greater part of your life and get a “feel” for what may lie ahead if you did make a serious change. It’s your life and only you can live it the way you really want to. Trust your feelings and they will lead you to your ultimate peace of mind.
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