Talking About Other People
November 3rd, 2006Have you ever noticed that any of your friends or acquaintances who regularly talk negatively about other people are often talked about in a similar negative fashion when they are not around? This idea of “knocking” other people is particularly prevalent among celebrities and is itself one of the main selling points for gossip magazines. It is so common to see or read about the celebrity of the moment giving an interview and talking trash about someone they perceive as a rival. Maybe you talk about others yourself and to be honest I think most Westerners are or have been guilty of this.
Over the past couple of years while I have been living in Asia I have become more and more aware of people putting down others verbally without a hint of concern to what they are doing or saying. The reason I say I have noticed this so much while living in Asia is because very few Asian people do this. This is predominantly a Western trait. Since I spend a lot of my time around Asian people, I really notice the “knocking” when I am around other Westerners who I think do this mostly through habit. The thing is though, and I believe many people are unaware of this, is that the person they are ultimately hurting is themselves.
Like everything in this universe, what you put out is what you get back. This is a universal law and there is no escaping this law. If it is positive thoughts or words you emit, that is what will be returned to you at some stage in the future. Likewise, if you talk negatively about others, then other people will talk negatively about you. Whatever energy you send out into the universe will gather more of the same energy and come back to you, there is no avoiding this.
As I became aware of this I decided to perform my own social experiment and have a good look around my environment of friends and acquaintances and in the media which I generally avoid and see for myself if I can notice a pattern. What I noticed was painfully clear in no time at all. The same people within certain groups in the community are always “knocking” and being “knocked”. However, others within that same community who do not “knock” others, but instead talk highly of their peers get the same positive comments in return. I also noticed within my own group of friends, this was also the case.
If you are unsure of this, don’t take my word for it, have a look around your own world and I have no doubt you will come to the same conclusion as me. On top of all this, when I am around someone who is belittling another, I seem to get a splash of negative energy from that person and like to get away as soon as possible. However, talking positively about others and generally being around positive people has the opposite effect and makes us feel good. So if you are around any “knockers” or catch yourself talking negatively about other people, don’t make a big fuss about it but be aware that if you are trashing others, someone somewhere will be talking the same way about you. The good thing is though, once you are aware of this you can change this bad habit anytime you want and know that the good things you say about others will certainly be said about you.
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