Success Tips Avoid Problem People
June 17th, 2007One of the greatest success tips ever is to avoid problem people. People who cause problems for the sake of causing problems or because they like to see people suffer are your worst nightmare the longer you engage them in any type of communication. To avoid problem people it is sometimes wise to completely sever ties with those problem people even if you may have known them for quite a while since they will only ever try to bring you down to their level.
Problem people thrive when problems occur and love to say things like “I told you so” which is about the last thing anyone ever wants to hear. Sometimes problem people are not always aware they are causing problems since they have been doing it for so long or it is simply a habitual part of the way they act. Until you begin to avoid problematic people you will be forever frustrated.
I once worked with a guy who was always causing problems at work and when everything was running smoothly and the big boss was happy nothing pleased him more to create a problem that really wasn’t a problem. The thing with problems is you can always find one if you look hard enough and that is exactly what this guy always did. Since he had been with the company which was family owned for many years he had become like a piece of the furniture and would have been very hard to get rid of so we all had to put up with him until one day a new manager started and everything changed.
This guy was such a problem causer that even on the new managers first day he was able to instigate a problem out of thin air that the manager had to deal with. Immediately the new manager knew what the problem causer was up to and on just his second day he called him into his office and in an instant he changed what had been causing the other staff untold grief for years. He reassigned the problem causer a similar but new position where he was to report only to the manager and was not to talk to any other staff other than in his lunch break. Within a month the problem causer quit since his ability to cause problems was deprived of oxygen.
When you avoid problem people you take away the very thing that gives them power and that is their ability to directly cause you problems. Of course they can create problems in other areas they will indirectly affect you but it is up to you to find a workable solution to that problem or you need to move on. Until you avoid problem people and stop worrying about them and the problems they casue your happiness will never be under your control. However, you can regain control by choosing who you work with and certainly who you socialize with. If you have a problem person in your social group deprive them of their life blood by deliberately avoiding them, there is no need to be rude, in fact there is no need to do anything if they approach you other than smile and walk away. They will soon get the message and if they don’t, the longer you avoid them, eventually they will.
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