Out of the Frying Pan into the Fire
January 9th, 2007In my line of work as a personal trainer I often see people jump head first into a full schedule of personal fitness and self improvement. From previously only working, sleeping and spending the rest of their time lazing around, I’m not surprised when it almost always comes to an abrupt end soon after they begin. As exciting as it is to feel the energy well up inside you to the point where you want to take on the world, you really need to take your time as Rome wasn’t built in a day. Anyone who is successful in any venture in life has had a plan and has taken the necessary steps by taking one day at a time to realize their dream. If you are stressed out at work or school, severely over weight, in a dysfunctional relationship whether an adult or a child or wishing your life was in any way different to the life you have, there is a way out. Even if you can’t see the light through a thick haze of problems, there is no point jumping out of the frying pan into the fire. The wise move is always to make your plan and hit the ground running. Just don’t run so fast that you fall over and can’t get back up again.
If it is an exercise program you want to begin, first look at where you are at physically and perhaps start with two half hour sessions per week of whatever exercise you enjoy and see how you feel at the end of the week. This might seem like a pretty simple start and it is but you can always add to your schedule the following week if you feel the need to. If not you can just stay at two short periods of exercise per week until you are ready for more. The most important thing is you have started doing something when previously you were doing nothing. Taking it slow to begin with doesn’t add any extra stress to your already stressed out life and you are more likely to continue. If you go overboard to begin with and quit, psychologically it will be that much harder to establish a new routine all over again.
Changing your diet dramatically is usually not a good idea especially if you are trying to lose weight. Once again take this one step at a time. If your body is used to eating burgers and fries every day you need to filter in some healthy food no more than one meal per day. As your body and mind adjust to this new eating plan you can cut back on the high calorie foods and replace them with a leaner alternative. In time and as you see your waistline decrease in size, you may even find your confidence start to increase a little and when this happens you will gain a new measure of control. If jumping on the scales works for you, by all means go for it but I’d recommend staying away from the scales and keeping an eye on how you look in the mirror. When you’re looking good you’re feeling good and that’s what matters, don’t let the number on a scales have any power over you.
When the time has come to look at your relationship situation if you are an adult, maybe it’s time to bite the bullet. There is no point in staying put if you are intensely unhappy, over time this only leads to further resentment and frustration. If your relationship needs an injection of love it’s time you made your move or give your partner the space they need to talk about the problems you need to address to make it work. This takes time and if it’s the right relationship for you, you need let it flow and be prepared give as well as take.
Your home life has a profound effect on every other area of your life. While it can be incredibly hard to walk away, sometimes it may be the only option you can take. Doing so takes courage and the need to take responsibility for your actions and for those under your care if you have children. Remember an amicable arrangement only serves to help you in the long run if you and your partner still share any ongoing responsibilities or commitments. If not, it may be a little easier but you still need give your ex partner the space and respect they need and you both deserve. The break up of a relationship can be one of the most painful experiences you will ever have but it can also be a catalyst for something great. From my own experience, as difficult as it seemed at the time, it was from this event that I learned more about myself and my life than from anything I had ever previously experienced. Although I wouldn’t wish this on anyone, those who have been through this know exactly what I’m talking about and from this experience it makes every other relationship in the future so much easier to navigate. The best advice in this situation is once again, don’t jump out of the frypan and into the fire. Giving yourself some breathing room in between partners gives you the space to reassess where you are at, being on your own. Then you can better plan in what new direction you plan to travel so you don’t repeat past mistakes or jump into the arms of a carbon copy of your previous partner as so many people do. If you don’t take the time to have a good look at yourself and see where you need to make a change you will probably end up attracting only more of what and who you have always attracted. The law of vibration article on this site gives a more detailed explanation.
If you are a kid and your home life makes you uncomfortable it is up to you to keep yourself focused on what is under your control. As a kid you have to put up with most of your parents demands and there is no point fighting this. I’m not saying it’s right but it is what it is. If you feel your parents are going way beyond their rights only you can make a decision to do something about it but whatever you do take a long close look at the repercussions of your words or actions before you make a decision. The best advice in this scenario would be to talk to someone you can trust outside of your family if you can’t talk to your parents or guardian. Never look to make a dramatic change while under stress or angry, you should always wait until you have a clear head before speaking or acting and yes I know this is difficult and even harder when you are a kid. In the end you need to hang in there, it takes a lot of hard work being a kid but you won’t be a kid forever.
When you find yourself daydreaming of another life or any life other than the one you’ve got, there is always a way out. While the dream may look to be within reaching distance, give yourself some time and space when planning to make a transition from the life you have to the life you want otherwise it may all come crashing down and leave you in a place that’s even worse than where you’re currently at. A solid, steady and well thought out plan will manifest solid results and is your best means of making that leap into a life of happiness and away from that tired old life of misery.
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