Forgive or Forget
May 17th, 2009Maybe it is time to forgive or just forget. So many people the world over consume themselves with one problem or another, time and time again. As one problem fades, another one pops up to take its place almost immediately or the mounting problems begin to overlap. Human beings love to blame others for their misfortunes or place the blame on others for their miserable lives or seemingly never ending sadness. Is there any point in blaming others for what they may have done to you or what you let them do to you?
Every day of our lives the media brings to our attention a new story about how someone has done a bad turn by someone else. It is often a trivial issue blown out of all proportion to create hysteria within the community. A celebrity was unfaithful to his wife, a woman slept with her partners best friend, a school teacher told a student she was too fat to participate in a school sporting event and 20 years later the student still carries emotional scars from the teachers harsh words. Do you get my drift?
I mean really, what has this world come to when almost, not everybody of course, is blaming someone else for their pathetic or depressing life. Maybe it is time to man up a bit and grow a little bit of backbone. If you cannot get over your cheating ex partner months or years down the track, or that horrible night out when you got so drunk you did something you are so ashamed of, or that awful insult about you being too ugly, too fat, too skinny or too stupid, maybe now, today, it is simply time to forgive yourself or the other parties involved and just move on. If you cannot find the intestinal fortitude to forgive, why not just forget about that malevolent person or that ghastly insult or event you experienced and just plain forget. Thats right, just forget it, stop thinking about it and get over it.
For those of you who say you can never forget that terrible incident, maybe it has come a time in your life to stop telling yourself you cannot forget that incident and start believing that you can by getting on with what is important in your life right now.
I will not apologize to all those chronic pessimists out there who think taking the moral high ground and refusing to release painful events or people from their past will help protect them from it happening again. Newsflash, it will not, only releasing it from your conscious thoughts will allow you to move on towards happiness. You need to get over yourself, forget the past and let go and trust. The past has no power over you if you let it go. Now has never been a better time to forgive or forget, you owe it to yourself if happiness is your ultimate goal.
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August 15th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
Wow, I like you. I mean that. I feel in my life now I have given up my power and going through your articles has been inspirational; my goal of getting back to my fearless self is insight. I know with me, sometimes it’s healing to get outside of myself and get back to the basics. I tend to feel stuck at times and we all lose our way from time to time…Forgiveness does not admit you were wrong, it is something you do and is empowering. ‘Let it go’, ‘The past is the past’ and my favorite ‘It is what it is’. The less labels we put on it all, the more empowered we are. The basics. It does take practice, but once you have practiced it’s like getting on a bike again. Thank you for sharing! We do create our our reality and it’s great to be roaming outside of my own head/thoughts because I completely agree with you. Thanks for the reminders!!