Can People Change
August 9th, 2007We have all asked ourselves at one point or another, can people change? We consider can we change ourselves or can the people around us or the people we care about change. I remember hearing an old saying that a leopard never changes its spots, meaning people never really change but I do not believe this for a second. Yes, some people will never change a great deal over the course of their lives but generally speaking I think people can change dramatically as the years pass and they become wiser and more mature.
Can people change? Absolutely people can change and often people will change through necessity since over time they realize through their experiences that they cannot make any forward progress in their lives without changing the way they feel and act. Unfortunately some people find out too late in their lives that their way of thinking or their judgmental nature was never doing them any favors but were previously too stubborn or simply not aware of their need to change.
We live in an ever changing world and environment and only through changing and adapting will we ever find peace. People who can release their ego and open their awareness understand the concept of change and no longer fight it. It is so easy to stick to what you know and try to avoid the ever changing world but this in time only leads to frustration since change is natural, healthy and inevitable. By setting your intentions to change you will start to move closer to where you want to be and away from where you are.
Maybe you have wondered, can people change, as you have observed someone you care about continue to repeat the same mistakes as the years go by and considered if they will ever change. Sadly, there is not much we can do when we witness someone we care about who is unwilling to change, destroy their life. Making a significant change in your life that will at first disrupt every single area of your life is something many people do not have the courage to face. Although for those who are prepared to make this enormous sacrifice in the hope that things will get better, almost always experience a positive result.
You will find that the ones who say that people cannot change are either unwilling to change themselves either through fear or perhaps they lack the courage to make the first steps towards change. Once you make the decision to change and do what is necessary, no matter how hard it may be, your fears begin to fade and once you have successfully incorporated a huge change into your life, facing your fears from then on gets easier and easier. Fear is only a thought in your mind, it has no substance in any type of material form but those fearful thoughts can ultimately kill you if you let them.
We all live in a free will universe meaning that we all have the right to choose what we do or don’t do. We can choose to be a success or a failure and through our actions comes success or failure. We can choose to follow our dreams even if our earlier life has seemed like a nightmare and go on to be successful or we can do the opposite. If you choose alcohol and drugs there may be a good reason for it at first, since it may have seemed like an escape from the pain or fear in your life. However, what about when we realize that the alcohol and drugs have taken us to an even worse place than we were already at. Can people change? Yes they can change and addiction can be the greatest and most profitable experience we ever encounter in our entire lives. Overcoming addictions leads to the ultimate sense of freedom and the greatest release from all that we fear in life.
We all have the power of free will and we all need to figure out how to use it, this is one of our greatest lessons in life. We have the will power to be drug free, faithful and considerate to others and we have the power to say yes or no in all situations. Don’t let this concept appear bigger and more complex than it really is, in fact you should really enjoy change. Just like we all have the choice to go right or go left, we can always say yes or we can just as easily say no. We usually know where our choices will lead us, especially as we get older and we always have the power to choose if we want to go to that place or not.
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August 9th, 2007 at 11:52 am
Thanks for these reminders, John.
Unfortunately, I think most of us have had the experience of caring about someone who behaves in self-destructive ways. It’s good to remember that everyone behaves in certain ways for reasons that make sense on some level in their own minds.
August 23rd, 2007 at 4:21 pm
I’ve often wondered why it’s so difficult to make the commitment to change our lives. Many of us know we want to, and have this inner knowing that we must change in order to have a better life, but somehow we put it off. I assume it’s because of ingrained inner beliefs about ourselves that sabotage our efforts. However, it’s not impossible to change these beliefs and turn our lives around. There are many examples of people doing this everyday, and these examples are proof that anyone can change. I think the key is to make the commitment within ourselves that we can and will change, no matter what obstacles we encounter. Making small steps everyday and noticing the improvements gives us incentive to keep going. For myself, after years of procrastiantion I have made that commitment. I know it won’t be easy but just doing little things and building on them is what will make all the difference in the end.